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Empowering Books

In this resources list, you’ll find books to help empower you after divorce. From understanding relationships and attachment styles to identifying issues from your childhood that may be still affecting your life today. 

The 5 Love Languages

The Secret to Love That Lasts

If you ever cursed your ex for not showering you with affection, not spending quality time with you, or not giving you gifts, it’s time to read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book has improved relationships all over the world and saved marriages from going under. It will make you understand your ex’s actions during the relationship and take away any blame.

This book will seriously change your perspective on relationships whether you get back with your ex or venture into a new relationship, the lessons are invaluable. 


The New Science of Adulting Attachment and How it Can Help You Find And Keep Love

Did you know that there are four main styles of attachment and we each have an attachment style? Whether you are an anxious avoidant, fearful, dismissive or secure type (or even all 3), this book looks into the science behind love to allow you to identify with your own and recognise the attachment styles in others to help you move forward in new relationships and build more enriching connections.

This book is an eye-opener to any patterns that you may have in forming and maintaining a relationship. 

Rising Strong

How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Any book by Brene Brown is an insightful read. A research professor specialising in courage, shame, empathy and vulnerability, her TED talk, ‘The Power of Vulnerability’ has reached more than 45 million views. Using her own experiences and that of her research, Rising Strong is a book about getting back up, and how we can use heartbreak, failure and disappointment to empower us. It’s about dealing with shame and having compassion for ourselves when we fall.  In the words of Brene Brown, “If we are brave enough, often enough, we will fall.”

Love Yourself First!

Boost Your Self-Esteem in 30 Days

I love this book by Marc Reklau. The chapters are really short making it easy to pick up and read whenever you have 5 minutes or even less spare. Some of these chapters have exercises to instantly boost your self-esteem, whether it’s writing down everything you have achieved or just the art of smiling. This book is really clear and easy to read and will guide you to take full responsibility for your life. It’s like therapy for self-esteem at your finger tips. 

Running On Empty No More

Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children. 

If you’ve ever felt like something important was missing from your life but are confused as you believed that you had a good childhood, you may find the contents of this book enlightening. Dr Jonice Webb PhD is the pioneer of Children Emotional Neglect (CEN), and shows how emotional childhood neglect can affect your relationships and emotional development. Dr Webb offers solutions on how to heal the trauma, including talking to your parents and through case studies. You don’t need to be in a relationship to get something out of this book. 

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Healing The Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

If the theme of not being good enough resonates with you, this book delves into the outcomes of having a Narcissist mother and how it may affect you in your adult years. According to the author, every little girl deserves to have a mother who is crazy about here. Maybe you have a need to constantly prove yourself and have become a high achiever, or you were searching for a partner to fill the emotional void and emptiness that you feel.

This book is divided into different parts to first help you identify with the traits of Narcissistic mothers, before having the cognitive understanding of how it affected you. She then gives actionable steps to be able process the feelings and patterns to move forwards.

Stop Drifting, Start Rowing

by Roz Savage

f you are looking for a real-life story of an inspiring woman who changed her life after divorce, this is one of those books.

Roz Savage had a perfect life: a job, a husband and a little red sports car, but forward five years and she was divorced, homeless and alone in a tiny rowing boat in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean… Roz became the first woman to have rowed solo across three oceans. This book is her inspiring tale of ‘one woman’s search for happiness and meaning alone on the Pacific.

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